The State of Our Union

I'd be lying if I said everything was sunshine and unicorn farts around here. We hardly see each other. We barely speak. Not out of anger, mind you. We are just busy and exhausted from our respective other responsibilities. I think. Definitley not anger though. It is causing some stress that neither of us is really sure how to address. Both of us can see it's there. Both of us know it's a problem. How do we fix it? No clue. Our marriage isn't like most people's. He doesn't work normal hours at a 9-5 job. I wasn't born to be a stay-at-home mom. I see it as one of MANY things that make me me. It doesn't define who I am, though. I get no days off. He gets zero days off. But if you asked us what we need most it would be time off together. Without two small but incredibly cute tag-a-longs. Our marriage needs an opportunity to thrive independent of our children. Without that I fear things will only get much worse. Now, the tricky part. How do we accomplish this given our lack of time? Thoughts and suggestions, as always, appreciated.